The Cheese Grates It: My Lack Of Beauty Does Not Give You the Right to Treat Me Like Crap

Seen in the photo at the end of the post:

Miss Piggy's doppelganger, one morning after work.
The knee jerk reaction from many people will be to say to me "oh no, Cie, you don't look like Miss Piggy!"
But I do. And there's nothing wrong with that.
If I refer to myself as "fat," there will be people who will immediately tell me "oh, you're not really that fat."
But I am. And there's nothing wrong with that.
There will be people who will tell me "it doesn't matter. Confidence is sexy!"
But I'm not confident. And I'm not sexy. And there's nothing wrong with that.
If I refer to myself as old, there will be people who will say "but you're not that old!"
Well, I may not be "that" old. But I'm not young either. And there's nothing wrong with being old.
It took me a long time to get to the point where I could truly feel that it was okay to not be what society considers pretty. It took me a long time to be able to say "fuck this shit" to constantly trying to starve my body to a place it doesn't want to be. It took me a long time to be able to say, no, you do not have a fucking right to insult me or anyone else just because you deem us unattractive.
I may not be everybody's cup of tea. I may not be anybody's cup of tea. But that does not give anyone the right to be an asshole about it.
I am not in love with myself by any means. But I have gotten to the point where I respect myself enough that I won't allow anyone to bully or belittle me.
I don't take a lot of "selfies." There are a lot of things I'd rather take pictures of than my face. But this is my face, such as it is. It is on my body, such as it is. You don't have to think either one is beautiful. But you do have to treat the person who owns them with common decency.
You don't have to find anyone attractive. But if you think it's okay to hate on people and broadcast your hate, you have a lot more problems than I do, and I have quite a few.
~The Cheese Hath Grated It~

The Cheese Grates It: Fat, Old, and Ugly

For those who like to use size shaming to attack people (and are, sadly, backed up by our fatphobic society)

For those who like to use ageism to attack people

For those who like to use someone’s physical appearance to attack them

Here I am, Assholes. I’m fat, I’m old, and I could never be considered pretty. I chose the worst selfie I have of myself, taken last year when I had the flu, was running a 101 degree temp, and felt like death warmed over. 

“You’re fat. You’re old. You’re ugly.”

Yeah, I am. So what? You want a medal for stating the obvious?

Fat is not an insult, it’s simply a body type.

Old is not an insult, it’s simply an age range.

Physical beauty is subjective.

Ugly is actually an attitude. 

If you are trying to attack someone by ridiculing their physical appearance, you are most certainly ugly.

Furthermore, being fat is not the “problem” that the multi billion dollar diet industry likes to make it out to be. If diets worked long term, they wouldn’t be in business for very long.

Having a larger body type also does not equate to gluttony. I often eat only one meal a day because I can’t afford to eat more than that. Still fat. There are many big people out there who can say the same. 

I have a history of eating disorders, and my fucked up brain tends to praise me when I starve myself, which makes me continue to starve myself even when food becomes available. 

I have diabetes. This aforementioned starvation isn’t good for anyone’s health, let alone the health of someone who should be keeping their blood sugar levels steady. I can’t take my glucophage if I don’t eat, because it will make me extremely nauseous. But there you have it, all thanks to a society that has been hateful towards larger people for no reason at all.

I don’t care what another person looks like. There are a lot of “ugly” people who are the best of people, and there are certainly conventionally attractive people who have extremely ugly insides.

This is me, Bitches. I’m fat, I’m old, and I’m quite probably perceived as ugly by the majority of people who set eyes on me. So if you’re looking to insult me and you use any of the above in your lame ass attempt, I say to you:

“Is that all you got?”

~The Cheese Hath Grated It~

P.S. Comments of the "but you can lose weight if..." variety will not be published or responded to. After 33 years of yo-yo dieting and eating disorders, I fortunately discovered Size Acceptance and Health at Every Size. Diets don't work, and I will not discuss that shit. End of story.