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All humans have done wrong be it little or large. That means all humans are as equally guilty as the next human. Harbouring a grudge is as foolish as holding fast to your guilt. Forgive others as you forgive yourself. Be sincere. Try not to repeat mistakes but don't forever blame yourself if you cause inadvertent harm. Apologise for the hurt caused but remember when those you have hurt do not forgive you that they too are as guilty of having caused another grief. Life is too short to allow guilt, self-recrimination or another's blame transference to upset your equilibrium. Listen to others even if they do not listen to you. Be at peace with yourself.
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I don't forgive the men who assaulted me. I have had to forgive myself for allowing myself to be in a situation where I got assaulted. I was not someone who got into my car and got nabbed by a creep hiding in the back. I was reckless and put myself into harm's way. This does not mean I deserved what happened to me.
However, I do not give these men the power of thinking about them very often. What they did to me will profoundly affect me throughout this life and possibly beyond, but I feel the best revenge is to not allow them to thoroughly destroy me.
I cannot imagine how that must feel, and no you didn't deserve it, no way. Forgiveness, though, is not merely your forgiving them thereby empowering them in thinking they are free of responsibility for what they did. Your forgiving them releases you from attachment to past events which will forever haunt you if you don't. Cause you pain forever more. Your forgiving then acts as a balm to yourself. It helps to heal you. You will never forget that awful moment but you can be free of it and them by forgiving. When we desire revenge we need dig two graves. When we forgive we heal ourselves.
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