Friday, September 9, 2016

Fear




Fear is the one thing that holds us back from true freedom. Fear of the other which reduces our natural human reaction to love those who live on this planet with us. It might be a Muslim we fear because of the stereotyping we hear of; it may be a homosexual who's sexual preferences frighten us due to some ridiculous belief of 'them' either raping or abusing heterosexuals; it may be a specific race or a nation who we view as being somehow different to ourselves; all  these fears are groundless, irrational, futile. 

Our differences add colour to our existence. We should embrace them not fear them.

Another fear is the fear of death. Well, nothing lasts long, nothing lives forever. All things must pass and ourselves no less but death should have no fear for us. Life is as fleeting as the morning dew, we should live it with every fibre of our being. We should not fear dying but enjoy living. 

We are part of the eternal. When we sit in silence, our minds relaxed, our bodies too; as we stop the chattering of our brains allowing silence to encompass us so we feel the eternal fill us. We are at this stage part of the universe. Death finds a different perspective then. Weare truly alive.

The Cheese Grates It: Education, not Overpopulation


The following is my response to a post by Josiah Brown about his feelings on the abortion his ex-girlfriend had.

"There would be fewer abortions if comprehensive family planning were more widely available.”

THIS! I (and many others) have said it for years, but people still don’t listen. 
Cutting funding to women’s health clinics does not prevent abortion. It only decreases the likelihood that any abortion performed will be legal and safe. It also increases the likelihood of unplanned and unwanted pregnancy by removing access to education and methods of contraception.
I am not “pro-abortion.” However, I realize that abortion is going to happen whether I am “pro-abortion” or not, and it happens for many reasons, both reasons of medical necessity and personal reasons. My own personal feelings should not determine the ability of others to make this difficult choice. 
While I was able to conceive (I am now post-menopausal) I said that I would never personally have an abortion, but I fully supported keeping abortion safe and legal. I still support keeping abortion safe and legal, and I always will. I also support preventing abortion where possible through education and access to contraception.
On a planet where we are pushing the limits of our resources, I cannot for the life of me understand how people still think that “being fruitful and multiplying” is any sort of necessity. Regardless of what your religious convictions are, it’s time that archaic law was written off the books. I suggest it be replaced with “have fewer children and do your best to insure they are well educated and well adjusted.”

~The Cheese Hath Grated It~







Wednesday, September 7, 2016

What a Doll: Using Doll Magick to Connect with Spirits


The use of dolls in magick tends to be portrayed negatively in fiction and film. There are plenty of wonderfully entertaining stories of angry individuals utilizing dolls to wreak havoc on those whom they feel have wronged them.
The use of dolls or poppets is known as sympathetic magick. The doll or poppet is utilized to establish a connection between the spell caster and a specific person or animal. Far from always being negative, magick utilizing a poppet can be used to bring focus to healing spells.
The doll does not have to be particularly realistic looking. It can be a general human form, such as the doll illustrated above, available from Etsy.
The doll does not have to be made from cloth. Candles in human form are available from various sources. These are generally utilized in love spells.
I have several poppets that I made. While I am proud of them, I am not going to show a picture of them because I do not wish to inadvertently bring any sort of negative or disturbing energies to the people they were created to represent.
I feel that unless specific permission is given by the party the poppet was created to represent, a poppet should never be used as a focus for sex magick. The energies created by sexual arousal are extremely intense and could be disruptive or disturbing for a person who has not given his or her consent to receive such.
One of the poppets I created helps me to strengthen my connection to Gem. I will cradle the poppet and send comforting energies to him. If Gem and I have been having trouble connecting with each other, usually due to exhaustion or depression on my part, this helps us re-establish our bond.
I also created a poppet version of myself. I have a history of self-harm to my own body, but I won't harm the poppet. Whenever I am feeling like I might self-harm, I look at my poppet to remind myself that I was born innocent and do not deserve the hurt I'm thinking of inflicting on myself.
I keep Gem's and my poppet wrapped up in one of my shirts, embracing each other. 
While I do not have a poppet to represent my late father, who died from various cardiovascular complications in 2010 after a six year period of decline following a stroke in June of 2004, I do have the comfort objects he kept: a stuffed parrot I gave him and a stuffed corduroy bear that my mother gave him. 
My mother wanted to have these cremated with my father following his passing, but when she told me this, I felt a strong energy of distress in my heart chakra. I begged her to allow me to keep them. They are still with me today and help me keep the bond between my dad and me alive although he is in spirit.
The next time you see a movie or read a story where poppets are used to terrorize and control a victim, enjoy it. There are some great tales of terror involving the use of poppets. One of my favorites is "Sweets to the Sweet" by Robert Bloch, in which an angry girl gets, well, shall we say, sweet revenge on her abusive father.
If you are a fan of horror fiction and you can find a copy, you won't be sorry about picking up Ten Tales Calculated to Give You Shudders. It's billed as a book for children, and I received a copy on my tenth birthday from my mother. 
Although mom didn't want me reading horror comics when I was younger, she came to realize that I had an affinity for this sort of thing and gave me what remains one of my favorite books. Don't let the idea that this book was compiled for kids fool you: these are excellent tales by some of the finest writers. The book contains the classic cautionary tale "The Monkey's Paw," and to this day part of me fears the possibility that I might see the hideous monstrosity from Frank Belknap Long's "Second Night Out" floating towards me from a darkened room.
Perhaps when I'm retired I'll find the time to create poppets representing my favorite authors so I can tap into their collective creative consciousness when writer's block hits.
I'm only joking a little bit. From a crafty point of view, creating such dolls would be a fun activity. Also, I'm not new to working with spirits when I write. Without Gem, Team Netherworld's WIP novel, Fetch, would never have been imagined. It is his story: I am only the scribe.
Sympathetic magick is only one of the forms of terror that Fetch's protagonists face from Nyarlathotep's high priestess Yadira Root and her lackeys.
No, that wasn't shameless self-promotion, not at all. But if that sort of thing sounds like its your bag, click the link and follow along with us as the story takes shape.

~Cie~


One of these times, I need to discuss Chaos Magick, which is the system that I utilize. Like my mind, my magick is more chaotic than most people's. 
In the meantime, check out the page where I found this symbol.

Saturday, September 3, 2016

The Humorless Feminist Killjoy Cheese Grates It: Just Say No to Sexist T-Shirts




I’ve seen this floating around, and I have to tell you why there’s just so much NO here.
Big reason: this is sexist as fuck.
There’s the implication that girls/women can’t just be fans of music, they have to be groupies.
You’d never see a guy wearing a comparable shirt saying “good boys go to heaven, bad boys go backstage.”
I’ve been backstage. I’ve met musicians. I was happy to meet the musicians. I was not there to fuck the musicians. Not once. Not ever.
A musician would actually have to try harder than the average Joe Blow to get in my good graces due to the reputation that musicians have.
I’m not saying that there aren’t musicians I find attractive. I’m a heterosexual woman. There are plenty of musicians I’ve found attractive. However, I don’t see the need to fuck everyone I find attractive.
I would wear this shirt before I would wear a pro Donald Trump shirt. However, I would turn it inside out, because I sure as hell wouldn’t want this sexist bullshit emblazoned on my chest.

~The Cheese Hath Grated It~

Friday, September 2, 2016

Friendly Fill-Ins Week 17


Week 17: September 2, 2016

1. My favorite way to exercise is in a therapy pool. But I haven't had access to a pool since I quit my old job a year ago.

2. Something I learned last week was that it really sucks to be without money. Oh, wait, I already knew that.

3. I am sentimental about:

This beautiful mess. 
The photo isn't mine.

4. Some people might find it surprising to know that I used to believe that wonderful things would happen to you if you were a good person. I have since learned that bad people get away with a lot of shit and terrible things happen to good people. There is no rhyme or reason to it.

~Cie~

The Cheese Grates It: Say Her Name

Thumbs up to the creators of The Get Down for their compelling, memorable characters, including Mylene Cruz, who has an amazing voice and admirable strength of character.
Thumbs down to the writer of this synopsis for the first episode:
“Zeke's resolve to woo a girl sends him into a dizzying, dangerous nightclub scene, where he crosses paths with a nimble local legend.“
You may be wondering what I think is wrong with this sentence.
Why not use Mylene’s name?
Mylene is an essential character.
“A girl” is a plot device.
Granted, Shaolin Fantastic’s name wasn’t used either. However, this character is a mysterious figure throughout the first part of the episode.
Mylene appears early in the episode. We know exactly who she is from the beginning.
Mylene may not be the main character, but she is a very important character. She should not be relegated to being just “a girl.”
It’s not like it’s hard to type “Zeke’s resolve to woo Mylene.”

~The Cheese Hath Grated It~