The late Carrie Fisher once said to one of her detractors that youth and beauty are not accomplishments, they are accidents of time and DNA. Truer words were never spoken.
A Facebook acquaintance was lamenting that she used to be more psychically perceptive. She then went on to bemoan the fact that she "used to be pretty," but she was now fat. This is what I said to her, and it is advice that many of us need to hear.
As a person who yo-yo dieted until I was in my mid 40's, I want to encourage you not to see whatever your body type is as a bad thing. It took me all too many years to learn that. As for "pretty," that's very subjective and it isn't anything more than an accident of time and DNA.
I can relate to what you're saying. I used to be far more perceptive, but I've got too many "real world" concerns at this point and sometimes I feel about as perceptive as a mud clod. It's very frustrating.
For my own part, at this point, I'm going to work on the perceptiveness thing and not worry about whether or not other people find me "pretty." If they do, well, honestly, meh, whatever. That's nice, I guess. If they don't, so what? They can find something else to look at.
~The Cheese Hath Grated It~
2 comments:
I know it's a cliché but really, beauty is only skin deep. I no longer seek perceived beauty. I'd much rather share my life with someone who I can adore, cherish and who is my friend and companion. She may be fat, she may be thin, she may be white, black, Asian, oriental or even just plain ordinary. As you say, whatever.
Exactly. That's really the only way to go.
There was a blogger I used to follow (still would if she was still writing) who once said that hotness seeks itself out and it won't keep you warm on a lonely, cold night. You might be with someone "hot," but if they're emotionally cold, eventually you'll be left cold.
Seeking only "hot" people is extremely immature.
Frankly, most of the "hot" guys I've met have been way too self-absorbed, which left me cold right away.
Post a Comment