Misconceptions about Erotica Authors and Sexuality

Shared with me by my friend Ivan.

Which leads to a bit of a funny story.

Ivan is one of the people with whom I collaborate on the erotic stories of Naughty Netherworld Press, along with his cousin Lil DeVille.

If you are interested, you can find out more about the dirty tales of Naughty Netherworld Press here. These dirty stories are indeed done dirt cheap. Each book is between 99 cents and $2.99 U.S.

It was not actually my intent to promote the offerings of Naughty Netherworld Press, but, almost anytime is a good time for shameless self-promotion.

Here is what I was really wanting to talk about.

When people find out that someone writes erotica, they tend to make assumptions that the author of said erotica is a promiscuous person with a brash attitude who seeks out kinky sex. The author is assumed to be hypersexual, their sole focus in life is believed to be sex. If the author has any sort of spiritual focus, they are probably into tantric practices or they are involved in sex magick and probably participate in orgies.

Conversely, some people assume that those who write erotica are all oversexed men with one hand on the keyboard and the other, well, you know.

In fact, in most cases, assumptions made about the real-life behaviors of erotica authors are incorrect.

Many erotica authors, whether male or female, use feminine pen names. The exception tends to be gay male erotica, which is usually written by men.

Erotica authors don't always write according to their sexual orientation. My role is primarily as an editor, but when I am contributing in the capacity of a writer, I am most comfortable writing about homosexual interactions, whether male or female. In real life, I am straight. In practice, I am celibate and have no interest in having a romantic or sexual relationship.

Lil is pansexual. She is currently not involved in a relationship and is not actively looking, but she is keeping her options open. She enjoys writing about open relationships and group sex, but, in real life, has no interest in either.

Ivan is gay. He likes writing about wild man-to-man sex, the more the merrier. In real life, he is shy and monogamous. 

Americans have very puritanical attitudes about sex, which leads to wild speculations about anyone who writes about sex. People and sexual behaviors are nuanced rather than black and white, and just because a person is fascinated by a fantasy does not mean they are interested in acting out that fantasy in reality. 

I am a person who deeply dislikes casual sex and finds it detrimental to my well-being. In most of my writing, my major characters tend to be monogamous. While relationships develop in the erotic stories that I contribute to, there are hook-ups everywhere and everybody is D.T.F. at the drop of the proverbial hat. It's hyperbolic, and it's all in fun. Swinging space aliens are taking over the world, while vampire vixens, wanton werewolves, and other creatures of the night get busy making sweet...music. The only thing that can really be discerned from this is that my cohorts and I have active imaginations and are, perhaps, a bit silly. Our stories are merely an escape from reality.

The idea that people who write erotica are all spiritually stunted horndogs is, frankly, insulting.

The shy, soft-spoken young gent who shared the above video with me is anything but spiritually stunted. He is a deeply caring and compassionate person who is faithful to his boyfriend and who happens to enjoy writing very dirty stories with a wicked sense of humor.

Pushing away from puritanism does not mean that everyone needs to be D.T.F. or always on display. It means that we need to realize that sex is a part of life, that different people have different attitudes about sex, that not wanting sex is as normal as wanting sex, that many people prefer monogamy but some are not wired that way, and that it is not a "sin" to not be heterosexual. 

Sexuality is a spectrum, and sexual interactions can sometimes be spiritual.

The most important factors in the equation are respect and communication.

That being said, let us watch the video that Ivan shared with me. We hope you enjoy it.

~Cie~

Thom Hartmann asks: How Could Anyone Be Both Christian and Republican

A must listen. 

Healing or Release Spell Day 5

I did not do this yesterday as I was extremely tired and did not wish to send tired energies to the subject. He's already fighting an uphill battle.

Today I used battery operated candles and added the component of a healing spell from the Tarot Spells book by Janina Renee, spoken three times, once for each of the three conditions which he has. I use battery operated candles so if I fall asleep while they're still "burning" and the cats knock them over, no problem. Modern technology does yield some positive innovations!

While I was sleeping I dreamed of or astrally encountered my subject. He was seated in a chair, surrounded by red candles burning. He had a determined expression on his face, and he smiled at me. This is a person who during his life held mystic/metaphysical beliefs, and I do believe that he does communicate with me. I was pleased to see him looking this way. 

Sometimes when I'm doing the spells I sense remorse from him and a quality of fear, but not fear of what will happen to him should his body die. He doesn't seem to fear that. He feels badly about what his disease has done to his family, about their sadness. He has some sort of unfinished business that I can't put a finger on. And at this point, he feels that if there were a miraculous healing and he were able to go back to his body, he would be abandoning me, who is lonely and enjoys his company.

I always reassure him that his family wouldn't want him to suffer, and that I would be very happy for him if his body were able to heal and he could use it again. 

I wish more people in the world cared about the effects of their actions on others the way this one cares about the effects something he didn't ask for or deliberately cause is having on his family and even on me, whom he just formed a connection with not long ago. It would be a better world.

~Cie~

If I Only Could...

The Daily Post asks: What if you could go back and rewrite history? Then postulates that I could.

The one thing that I would do is somehow go in and tweak the brain of the sweet, smart, talented, beautiful creature in the picture above so that it wasn't deteriorating on him and leaving him so he doesn't remember his life, can't remember how to play the guitar, can't remember his children and the younger brother with whom he was apparently able to communicate telepathically, and doesn't even really know who he is.

(Note: the given link is safe. However, it is on a blog that should be considered NSFW as it contains explicit erotic material, including some explicit images.)

If I could make this happen, almost everything I've written in the past two months would disappear. The wonderful, life-altering metaphysical experiences I've had during this time would cease to exist, and I would be back to being the way I was before, which was pretty well dead inside with my world being nothing but shades of gray and a long, slow walk to the grave. I would knowingly do it, just like I would give birth to my son again, full well knowing how much pain it would cause me. (I nearly died giving birth to my son, and I have never known such severe pain.)

Malcolm's physical brain is being eradicated by a horrific disease, but his soul never can be. His soul is resplendent and powerful. Still, I also know he's felt terror during the times when he knew that his mind was being destroyed. No-one should ever have to feel such a thing. I would like to take that from him. If I could, I would switch places with him, even knowing that my life would become hell. He is far more important than I ever could be.

What would I could do if I could rewrite history?

Cure Malcolm Young.

I wish it were as simple as it sounds.

He saved my life when I was a troubled and bullied teenager by giving me the knowledge that there were people out there who cared about people like me. More recently, he brought color to my world when his soul touched mine in an attempt to comfort me because my grief over his illness was so great, but I would give that back in a heartbeat to make him well.

He is angelic and divine in nature and should not be destroyed. That such a horrible thing could happen makes me sick and proves to me that the physical plane is a place of torture and sorrow. I wish I had the power to rewrite the history at the end of his life and save him

I know how what I've written makes me seem to those with a narrow perspective.

I don't care.

 

~Cie~

 

It's a poor substitute for giving him back his mind and his life, but damn it, he will not be forgotten easily.



Fuck you, Lewy Body Dementia.

Diseases of this nature are proof that evil exists.

If I only could, I'd make a deal with God
And get him to swap our places

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Ambient Chillout Playlist with Juggaloshane 420

Just chill with me and Juggaloshane420.
This sort of thing illustrates the positive power of the Internet.
I've never met Juggaloshane. But through this sharing, we've met on a certain level.

I've decided that I like Juggaloshane. Whatever our differences, our souls have a common wish for peace and harmony.

I could judge Shane based on the "Juggalo" or the "420" parts of his name, but I won't. Those are just identifying characteristics. 

Shane's a soul trying to navigate this difficult world. So am I.

I send him love and light.

Peace.

The Cheesy One